The slogan of our wedding is ”Modern Tradition” because we have been influenced by many cultures from various countries in our lives already, so we want to create an atmosphere of multiethnicity on our wedding day as well.
It wouldn’t be us if we didn’t try to invent our own interpretation of some traditions and so we have taken the liberty to adapt them a little bit and ’recharge’ them with modern ideas.
We did not pick those customs and traditions at random, but rather deliberately because of the meaning they have. Obviously, we will not disclose everything at this point already, but just list a few which might be helpful for you to know up front.
The master of ceremony (of Hungarian origin)
The Vöfély (pronounce: Vöfey) means ”wedding organizer”. He is a kind of master of ceremony, i.e. the person who looks after the high spirits and good mood of the invited guests. He is in charge when it comes to organizing a smooth and hassle-free flow on a ”big day” like this. He puts the guests into good humor with jokes and verses. But most importantly: He is your contact if you have something up your sleeve for us on this day, because he will know when to place your surprise on the time schedule.
Another important Vöfély job is to put the groom to various tests to prove him worthy of his bride.
The ceremony (comprising elements from: Germany, Hungary, and America)
We will have a civil marriage, and we want our ceremony to live up to our personal wishes – with elements from quite different nations.
For instance: The groom, the Best Man, Maid of Honor, and the Bridesmaids will be waiting for the bride at the wedding desk. And of course, Orsi will be walked down the ”aisle” by her father. The role of the witnesses to a marriage in Hungary is not just a symbolic one. Actually, they are supposed to officially attest the marriage by signing the register.
What else is going to happen? You wait and see!
Throwing of rice (customary in many parts of the world)
A tradition which symbolizes the wish for the couple to have many children. We believe, however, that children rather don’t like playing with rice, so we think we have come up with something better. And don’t worry: You’ll get your amunition alright!
The time capsule (customary in: America)
At the party there will be a cylindrical metal container for the guests to place a little something in if they wish to, e. g. a souvenir, a letter or a USB-stick. Please note that the container is only about 10 cm in diameter and 30 cm tall, so to give everybody a chance, your contribution should not be too large. The container is sealed at the end of the party and is not to be opened until ten years later, when the married couple celebrate what is called their ”glass wedding”.
The bridal dance (customary in: Hungary)
At midnight sharp the bridal dance is on. It symbolizes the transition from bride to wife. Each guest subsequently has the chance to get a little dance with the bride. Another purpose of this tradition is to make financial contributions to the honeymoon trip, i. e. to ’buy’ a dance with the bride. To do that, you place a few forints or euros in a large bowl covered with a piece of cloth. It doesn’t matter how much you donate – it is merely a symbolic gesture.
If you plan money as a wedding gift for us, this would be the chance for you to put your envelope in the bowl. But it is up to you, of course, if you prefer to do it that way or rather hand it over to us personally.
You are free to have more than one dance with the bride, as long as everybody has had one dance at least.
The bridal dance ends by having the groom throwing his entire wallet into the bowl to make him the final winner of the ”bidding for the bride”.
From white to red (customary in: Hungary)
A very nice tradition, actually, is the change of the wedding dress. It happens after the bridal dance and has the bride change from her white to a red dress to indicate that she is now a wedded wife.
Women’s dance (customary in: Hungary)
A typical event at a Hungarian wedding is the collective dance of the women, who form a circle with the bride in the center. She will then dance with the women from the circle one by one. This is to symbolize the unmarried girls handing over the bride to the group of married women, who accept her as now being a peer of theirs.